Everyone Wants to Be Rich, Happy & Hot

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One of the people of my watch-list is Marie Forleo and if you visit her blog, you’ll see that her tagline is:

Where Women Entrepreneurs Live Rich, Happy and Hot

Nice eh?

As a woman entrepreneur, I certainly want to be rich, happy and hot.

But today I feel poor, pissed off and far from hot!

You see, I’ve had one of those weeks. You know the ones where nothing seems to work like it should. Let me share my woes – they say sharing makes you feel better so let’s see.

  • My internet connection is sloooooooooow and I don’t know why but the result is it’s taking me ages to get things done
  • I wanted to make some changes to my website but didn’t have the know-how so have to wait for my web developer to do it for me
  • My taxes from last year have been hanging over my head and I had to get them done even though I really wanted to spend the time doing other things
  • I’m creating a new program which I know will be great but that stupid negative little voice inside my head won’t shut up
  • I want to bounce some ideas around but I don’t want to burden my networking community because they’re all busy too
  • I had to delete over 150 “likers” from my Facebook fanpage and only 38 have “re-liked” which is pretty depressing 🙁
  • I saw a sales promotion for a program about “how to build a thriving online audience” featuring gurus like Corbett Barr, Leo Barbuto, Gary Vaynerchuk and Danielle LaPorte but I’ve spend my training budget so can’t do it.

I could go on, and on, and on, but I realize you’ve probably already got the violin out! I know, none of these things are big disasters and as my stepson would remind me “they’re very 1st world problems.” He’d be right of course. But the thing is, they’re my problems and I have to deal with them.

The reason people like Marie Forleo, Corbett Barr, Leo Barbuto, Gary Vaynerchuk, Danielle LaPorte and hundreds of others are in business, is because these are the sorts of issues entrepreneurs face and have to deal with – especially those of us in the startup and early growth stages.

So what am I going to do about all of these terrible problems?

Deal with the overwhelm

Serendipitously I read a blog post over lunch (yep that’s what we entrepreneurs do for lunch!) written by another person on my watch-list Peter Shallard – The Shrink for Entrepreneurs. It was all about dealing with overwhelm. You know, when it all gets too much? He advises to “Be in the Now” meaning don’t focus on all that has to be done at some point in the future. Instead deal with what can be done right now.

Remember it’s a marathon not a sprint

As many of you know, I’m a runner – well an aspiring runner. I’m also terribly impatient. I want everything NOW! My husband (AKA Adonis) introduced me to the wonderful phrase “instant gratification is too slow”. That sums me up perfectly. However, I need to remember when it comes to growing a business, I need to be patient. I’m in this for the long haul. It takes time so I need to give it time.

Ask for help

I’m a big believer in the strength and power of networks, communities, support groups – whatever term tickles your fancy. I’m an extrovert so I get my energy from other people. I need people to talk to, share ideas with chew the fat with. I’m just not very good at asking for help, especially when I need it most. You see, I don’t like to be a burden and I hate not being good at things so asking for help can be tough but I need to JFDI.

Tell the negative voice to eff off

This is hard to do. I’m a high achiever and a perfectionist. Yes, I’m a nightmare to live with 🙂 The result is that I’m never satisfied and always think I can do better. For me, it also means I think everyone else is doing it better than me, faster than me or smarter than me. Some days that negative voice just doesn’t let up. It shouts rather than whispers. I need to tell it to hush. I need to teach that positive, supportive little voice to speak up and speak often.

Ahhhhh. I’m feeling better already. Rich, Happy, Hot….not yet but working on it.

As an entrepreneur do you ever feel this way?
Do you have any other tips to help me and others like me?

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14 Responses to Everyone Wants to Be Rich, Happy & Hot

  1. Sally Foley-Lewis March 2, 2011 at 4:15 pm #

    Packed with raw emotion Suellen!

    Thank you for sharing. This may sound weird but I’m relieved a gorgeous, smart, savvy, ‘together’ woman such as yourself has had one of those weeks… NOT because I’d ever wish it on you (and I don’t), rather because it reminds me that we ALL have these weeks from time to time. I hope that doesn’t sound mean, it’s not meant to be. I really enjoyed this post as it appeals to my sense of ‘keepin’ it real’!

    And for the record, in public here, you have permission to ask! I’m also extroverted and so the solo pursuit can rub against the grain some days!

    Sally 🙂

    • Suellen March 3, 2011 at 10:39 am #

      It sure was Sally.

      I just had to get it out :0

      Thanks for your kind words and support and for permission to ask!
      Cheers

  2. Cat Matson March 2, 2011 at 4:20 pm #

    ha ha, he he and LOL 🙂

    I’m with you … I totally agree and I KNOW.

    And likewise, I loved Peter’s recent post about Overwhelm!!

    Sometimes it’s just crappy … and that’s OK. It’s the wanting it to always be lovely that’s the problem 🙂

    And ditto what Sally said … as you know … you can ask. Look forward to FINALLY talking with you next week 🙂

    C

    • Suellen March 3, 2011 at 10:40 am #

      You are so right Cat.

      Talk Monday. Looking forward to hearing how your presentation went today.

      Suellen

  3. Donna Ambler March 2, 2011 at 5:17 pm #

    Im’ SOOO with you! I like the “deal with the overwhelm” concept – as I sit here pondering all the things I need to do in the next 6 weeks and wonder if I have bitten off more than I can chew! I also hate asking for help and end up screaming at my family when all I really needed to do was say: “I have to duck back up to my office for an hour, would you mind cooking dinner tonight?”.
    When we go into business for ourselves we have to learn to ask for help and to form networks of people who can help us, often as a favour here and a return favour there – whether it be a babysitting favour, a technical question or a hand preparing a document. I work with a designer who tarts up my poor graphic design skills while I polish his words – it works well.
    I too am a nightmare to live with for the same reasons as you outlined – but I am constantly feeling that nobody can do things as well as me so I may as well do them myself – so I take on even more and leave my family/friends/fellow committee members feeling useless! So there are lots of lessons from your venting – thanks!
    Donna
    PS – I also managed to shed those few kilos I whinged to you about last year – feeling loads better as a result!

    • Suellen March 3, 2011 at 10:41 am #

      LOL Donna. Thanks for sharing your experiences. Makes me feel ‘normal’!

      And well done on dropping those few kilos.

      Good luck for the next 6 weeks. Remember to stay in the now and breathe 😀

      Suellen

  4. rog42 March 2, 2011 at 7:56 pm #

    Love your work. Really 🙂

    I’m currently following 34 opportunities (details at #nscm) of which only 18 are still live. I.e. I’ve been rejected 16 times in the last 2 weeks. 2 of the rejections came today. Both of them in my top 10 priorities (#5 & #6 respectively) and both of them before I got to speak to the “Economic Buyer.” Talk about a kick in the pants.

    In the same day, I managed to complete 10 out of 12 contact activities, and had positive messages about another 3 of my opportunities. Not definitive. Not even moving from 60% to 70% in the lifecycle. But positive and still “in the game” none the less. Talk about a roller coaster.

    I’m a passionate guy. I can’t separate the emotions from the transactions, because I invest wholeheartedly in the process. When you sell yourself, rejection is by definition personal. And it doesn’t matter that you didn’t get a fair shake like the competition. That you know you’d have been fine had you just had that fair opportunity to talk to the buyer. At least, even if you’d lost then, you’d have had the opportunity to give it your best.

    But no matter what I’m feeling, which is what I loved about your post, I, we, should just pitch up and do the work. So I went from 20 live opps to 18 today, I “played my scales” and at the end of the day, it’s “playing the scales” that will enable me to be the rock star.

    Thanks for your post, your encouragement. I’m rich(ly blessed), happy, and (is it ok for me to be) hot!! 🙂

    As ever, Love your work!

    Rog42

    http://about.me/Rog42

    • Suellen March 3, 2011 at 10:48 am #

      Rog, thanks for leaving a comment here. I really appreciate it.

      Am very impressed with your tenacity. You say only 18 are still live but hey that’s still a huge number.

      Dealing with rejection is a tough one eh? I know people say “you aren’t your business” but I’m like you – I find it difficult to separate the two.

      Thanks for your support and encouragement. I’m richly blessed to be part of your network and of course it’s OK for you to be hot!

      Good luck with your remaining opportunities. You only need one of them to come off right?

      Love your about.me profile 😀

      See you soon
      Suellen

  5. Jen Brown March 2, 2011 at 7:58 pm #

    Sally was right – talk about “keeping it real!”. I love this post !

    I think you have been reading my mind Suellen. I too have had one of those weeks! Thank you for your honesty & sharing your experience.

    I am an introvert so I am *terrible* at asking for help. But please don’t hesitate to ask me 🙂

    Regards
    Jen

    • Suellen March 3, 2011 at 10:55 am #

      Jen it must be something in the weather or the stars! Perhaps the change of seasons?

      Just read your interview with Ironman, Trent Chapman. Some good business tips in there as well as sporting tips.

      1. Motivation – even when you don’t feel like doing it, do it anyway. Set goals – it’s good to have something to aim for.
      2. Believe in yourself – we can do much more than we give ourselves credit for.

      Thanks for your support Jen. Hope your week is looking better too 🙂
      Suellen

  6. Annabel Candy, Get In the Hot Spot March 2, 2011 at 10:12 pm #

    All parr for the course but terrible when you’re in it. And of course we all are at times. I’d say the last thing you need is a course to do. You got to focus on your thing!

    • Suellen March 3, 2011 at 10:59 am #

      Thanks Annabel.

      Re the course. I hear you but I think it’s important in business to learn from others – especially those that are successful in their field.

      You are also right. I do need to focus on my thing and am making good progress.

      Suellen

  7. Jodi Suters March 3, 2011 at 7:56 am #

    You are the Master & Commander – you are in total control of your own destiny and you are achieving marvellous things – a happy marriage, a gorgeous son, a thriving business, and a wonderful committment to your health and fitness via running! You need to pause and reflct on all the fantastic things you are achieving – and yes from one perfectionist to another, it is very easy to feel disappointed in oneself when we achieve slightly less than we know we are capable of, but you must always be conscious not to become deflated because as human beings, we need the lows to appreciate the highs!! You have a wonderful network of people that call you ‘friend’ and are only to happy to help, if not physiclly (like me) than emotionally, so always feel free to ask, it is never a sign of weakness, but a sign of intelligence, as it is the people that help, share, learn and experience in this world that truly achieve. Stay the course Suellen, you will triumph I have no doubt!! xxx

    • Suellen March 3, 2011 at 11:00 am #

      Oh Jodi, no wonder we were such good friends at school!

      I do have a great network and was blown away at how quickly so many people jumped on board to support me.

      Thanks for being there Jodi.
      Sx

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