One of the people of my watch-list is Marie Forleo and if you visit her blog, you’ll see that her tagline is:
Where Women Entrepreneurs Live Rich, Happy and Hot
As a woman entrepreneur, I certainly want to be rich, happy and hot.
But today I feel poor, pissed off and far from hot!
You see, I’ve had one of those weeks. You know the ones where nothing seems to work like it should. Let me share my woes – they say sharing makes you feel better so let’s see.
- My internet connection is sloooooooooow and I don’t know why but the result is it’s taking me ages to get things done
- I wanted to make some changes to my website but didn’t have the know-how so have to wait for my web developer to do it for me
- My taxes from last year have been hanging over my head and I had to get them done even though I really wanted to spend the time doing other things
- I’m creating a new program which I know will be great but that stupid negative little voice inside my head won’t shut up
- I want to bounce some ideas around but I don’t want to burden my networking community because they’re all busy too
- I had to delete over 150 “likers” from my Facebook fanpage and only 38 have “re-liked” which is pretty depressing
- I saw a sales promotion for a program about “how to build a thriving online audience” featuring gurus like Corbett Barr, Leo Barbuto, Gary Vaynerchuk and Danielle LaPorte but I’ve spend my training budget so can’t do it.
I could go on, and on, and on, but I realize you’ve probably already got the violin out! I know, none of these things are big disasters and as my stepson would remind me “they’re very 1st world problems.” He’d be right of course. But the thing is, they’re my problems and I have to deal with them.
The reason people like Marie Forleo, Corbett Barr, Leo Barbuto, Gary Vaynerchuk, Danielle LaPorte and hundreds of others are in business, is because these are the sorts of issues entrepreneurs face and have to deal with – especially those of us in the startup and early growth stages.
So what am I going to do about all of these terrible problems?
Deal with the overwhelm
Serendipitously I read a blog post over lunch (yep that’s what we entrepreneurs do for lunch!) written by another person on my watch-list Peter Shallard – The Shrink for Entrepreneurs. It was all about dealing with overwhelm. You know, when it all gets too much? He advises to “Be in the Now” meaning don’t focus on all that has to be done at some point in the future. Instead deal with what can be done right now.
Remember it’s a marathon not a sprint
As many of you know, I’m a runner – well an aspiring runner. I’m also terribly impatient. I want everything NOW! My husband (AKA Adonis) introduced me to the wonderful phrase “instant gratification is too slow”. That sums me up perfectly. However, I need to remember when it comes to growing a business, I need to be patient. I’m in this for the long haul. It takes time so I need to give it time.
Ask for help
I’m a big believer in the strength and power of networks, communities, support groups – whatever term tickles your fancy. I’m an extrovert so I get my energy from other people. I need people to talk to, share ideas with chew the fat with. I’m just not very good at asking for help, especially when I need it most. You see, I don’t like to be a burden and I hate not being good at things so asking for help can be tough but I need to JFDI.
Tell the negative voice to eff off
This is hard to do. I’m a high achiever and a perfectionist. Yes, I’m a nightmare to live with The result is that I’m never satisfied and always think I can do better. For me, it also means I think everyone else is doing it better than me, faster than me or smarter than me. Some days that negative voice just doesn’t let up. It shouts rather than whispers. I need to tell it to hush. I need to teach that positive, supportive little voice to speak up and speak often.
Ahhhhh. I’m feeling better already. Rich, Happy, Hot….not yet but working on it.
As an entrepreneur do you ever feel this way?
Do you have any other tips to help me and others like me?
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